How to make choices…

How to make choices…

Think about two hard choices you’ve had to make, or will make in the future…

Choosing between two jobs… Being an artist or an accountant

Choosing between two places to live… Living in the country or the big city

Choosing between two people to marry… Ruth or Suzie

All hard choices right?

Here’s the thing, hard choices are misunderstood

What makes a choice hard is how the alternatives relate. One choice is better than the other, and vice versa. Yet neither choice is better overall, so you agonize over them…

Now remember, not all hard choices are big. Choosing between a healthy breakfast versus a jelly donut seems hard, however, it’s not a big choice.

Realizing small choices can be hard, often distorts your perception of larger problems – making them seem much harder to solve than they really are.

So what do you (and most folks) do when faced with a hard choice?

Simple, you take the “safest option” right?

This is a fear driven action. Yet how many times has it felt like you made the ‘wrong choice’?

Fear of the unknown, a common motivational default when faced with hard choices is based on misconceptions.

It’s a common mistake to think one alternative is really better than the other.

Hard choices are hard because there is no best option.

So, if there is no best option, does it mean both alternatives are equally good?

Hmm, that can’t be right…. If that were the case you could simply flip a coin anytime life presented you with a hard decision…

Would you flip a coin to make an important career choice? Or when choosing between two potential life partners? Likely not.

When facing choices we normally have three ways to compare them. Greater then, less than or equal to.

However what if there was a FOURTH way make the comparison?

On a par

When alternatives are on a par it certainly matters which you choose, yet one alternative isn’t better than the other.

Rather, they’re on par. Or in the same neighborhood in terms of value – while at the same time being very different kind of value.

And herein lies your hidden superpower: You have the power to create reasons!

Make reasons for yourself in order to become the kind of person you want to become….

The artist living in the country married to Suzie is preferable to living in the city working as an accountant married to Ruth.

This is putting yourself behind an option. You’re essentially saying, “this is where I stand, this is who I am”.

Choose the option that leads you to become the person you wish you were. Don’t give in to social pressures or personal fears.

Remember The Best Is Yet To Come,

Michael