How to Quit Making Life Difficult

By Michael Bernoff | people have read this article
05 Mar

While i’m definitely not one to focus on the negative,
you just can’t get around the fact that the way to improve your life
is to ask the tough questions so you know where to focus your efforts.
Because I believe life change starts with asking the right questions.

Sometimes we have to look at what isn’t working to get it to work.

Now if this doesn’t apply to you – then I am pretty sure there are people around you that it does apply to and the key to you helping them is to understand them.

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Below are five (not all, just 5) of the ways we tend to make life difficult.

Let’s do a little evaluation.

Do you do any of these things?

You pretend you don’t know the answer.

You just can’t figure out a) how to make time to exercise b) how to ask for the sale c) how to keep on track with the food you eat d) how to make your relationship work. When in reality you already know the answers.  Pretending you don’t know them gets you off the hook of having to do the things you don’t really like to do!

Pretending you don’t know the answer keeps you stuck.

You’re more focused on proving yourself right than doing what works.

“I just don’t understand it, I’ve done everything I was supposed to do and a) I can’t close a sale b) I still didn’t lose any weight c) we’re still not getting along.”  Sound familiar?

If you are walking around listing off all the things you did right you’re just looking for justification.  Justification does not get results. 

Changing what isn’t working will get you results.

You settle when it comes to the people around you.

Ouch.  This is a tough one.  Ineffective people, negative people, the guilters, the blamers and the nay-sayers are all around us.  And sometimes we fall into that trap of “something is better than nothing” and so we live in misery because of the people we allow in our lives.  Want to slow down your productivity?  Spend time cleaning up after someone else’s poor work and then take another hour complaining about it.  How is it we’d rather have scraps than a gourmet meal?  I don’t know but everyone I’ve ever met has fallen into this trap at one point or another.  

Avoiding confrontation?  Feel bad for people?  Don’t want to hurt people?  

Consider yourself in this – so you’d rather suffer than have someone else held responsible?  Hmmmm….how’s that working out for you?

You think your mistakes matter.

Very few mistakes take down people permanently.  Trust me it’s not the end of the world when you make a mistake.  Yet you get immobilized with the fear of it.  Nobody wants to be wrong, nobody wants to look like a failure.  I get it.  Yet, here’s the deal.  Your mistakes are there to teaching you!  You learn, you adjust and you move on.  If you have fear of a) looking silly or b) losing money then you will a) still look silly for not doing anything and b) still lose money because you aren’t making more anyway!

You don’t trust your own judgement.

Another Ouch.  Building up a big case against yourself is a pretty easy thing to do.  And you know what this is?  An excuse.  Not trusting yourself is a cover up phrase for “lack of confidence.”  You don’t trust yourself to not eat the cake?  Bologna!  You don’t have the confidence to walk away from it is the truth.  If there’s one thing you want to eliminate from your vocabulary is “I don’t trust myself.”  If you walked around saying “I don’t have the confidence yet.” then you can bet your bottom dollar that you’ll spring into action just by making that statement.  

Life change starts with asking the right questions.

And knowing if any of these things applies to you is a great place to start.

Want to know how to get past these limitations?

Join me this Thursday night for a live training

I’ll share with you some powerful strategies so you can

get more results and make your life easier!

You will love what you learn.
And imagine how much easier Friday will be after you listen to this training!
If you want – email me back with which one of these you struggle with the most.

Talk to you then,



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